Life goes on...

Ain't it the truth?? No matter what we do the world just keeps on spinning. Even when we'd rather it stop, even when we shut down, life goes on....

In my life, I'm never more aware of this than when there is something happening with my ex wife's family that I am not included in. Of course, I always get to hear about it because my kids are involved.

Now, don't get this twisted. I'm not longing for what was, or what might have been. That's not the case. I love my wife and I love my life. I believe that God brought us together and I know that we are blessed. What I'm talking about here are the consequences of past actions, mistakes, etc... that continue to this day. I miss my ex's family and it makes me a little sad, at times, to miss out on their lives.

Currently, my ex's mom is in the hospital. She had a heart transplant 8 years ago and her body is rejecting the heart. They're treating her and she should get through this, but it can be difficult to be on the outside of the loop. Sure, I know the important details, but it's not the same as visiting her, even though I could. None of my ex in-laws would have a problem with that, it's just that I feel I need to let them have their time to deal with what's going on without adding any tension to the situation. I did get to talk to her on the phone and she knows that we're praying for her, so I feel like I've done all that is appropriate to do.

That said, it brings to light the idea that life does go on and it will go on without you. Take it from me, because this type of situation makes me feel that while I'm living my life, another part of my life is going on without me. That's a consequence of divorce. While there is no doubt that my life is blessed; I've got a wonderful wife that I love deeply, great kids, a great job, and a great church, it's times like these that I am reminded of the effects of my past sins.

I pray that you can learn from my past mistakes. Don't make all the same mistakes yourself, learn from mine. That, for me, makes all the pain and heartache that I've suffered worthwhile. I thank God that He's helped me learn from my past so that I will have a great future. Remember, life goes on - with or without you. I'd suggest that you hang on and...

Enjoy the ride!